Monday, October 29, 2012

Relationships after pregnancy

After you have had a baby, the relationships around you can change. Many women find that they turn to their own mother for help and support. But your mother may not be sure about how much to get involved. You may find that she is trying to take over or that she is so anxious not to interfere that she doesn’t help at all. Try to let her and others know what help and support you want from them.
Your relationship with your partner will also change. It is very easy in those exhausting early weeks just to leave things to sort themselves out. You may wake up six months later to find that you have not spent an hour alone together and have lost the knack of easily talking your problems through. You both need time alone, without the baby, to recharge your own batteries. You also need time together, without the baby, to keep in touch with each other.
Your relationship with your baby may not be easy either, particularly if you are not getting much sleep. Don’t feel guilty if you sometimes feel resentful at the demands your baby makes, or if your feelings are not what you expected them to be. Talk to your midwife or health visitor if you are upset or worried.
But remember, many mothers find their babies difficult at first and come to love them gradually over some weeks.
If you are on your own and don’t have family to support you, ask a friend to help you in the early weeks.

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